Foster Care and Adoption
Special Needs Child
by Kate Rosemary
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8.25x11, 180 Pages
If you are thinking about fostering or adoption, this is a good book to start with. It doesn't offer
beautiful pictures of waiting infants or angelic toddlers. Those, you can get from any agency. Instead,
in fifty-two short chapters on different topics related to adoption and foster care, this book invites
you to consider and prepare for realistic possibilities your agency may not think to mention. Each
thought-provoking topic is illustrated with a poignant example from Shane's life, and is followed by
worksheets on which the reader is challenged to provide his or her own perspectives in response.
Shane was adopted in 1992, on the day before his tenth birthday. By that time, he had been in "the
system" for five years and had been moved twenty-one times. He had a handful of diagnoses, and no
hope that anyone would ever keep him. His goal was to get rejection over with as quickly as possible,
and he worked hard to make that happen. It was over ten years before he came to terms with the fact
that he had finally met someone who wasn't going to give up on him, no matter what.
In the thirty years between 1977 and 2007, the author parented one birth son, two stepsons, three
foster daughters, one foster son, and three adopted sons. Most of these young people presented with
some combination of characteristics that put them in a category known as "special needs" or "hard to
place." These characteristics included being older than five at the time of placement (the youngest was
six and the oldest eighteen), being in a racial minority (one daughter and one son), and being part of a
sibling group (the two youngest brothers). Their medical and psychiatric diagnoses include
Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Major Depression, Physical Abuse, Manic
Depression with Psychotic Episodes, Hemophilia that resulted in AIDS from a blood transfusion, Multiple
Personality Disorder (now known as Disassociative Identity Disorder), Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder,
Intermittent Explosive Disorder, Addiction, Sexual Abuse, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder,
Borderline Intellectual Functioning, Sociopathy, Hypertension, Failure to Thrive, Hearing Impairment,
Rickets, and Polycystic Kidney Disease.
"You Recycled My Dreams."
"What do you mean?"
"My parents didn't want me. You did."
Shane's house is currently unlivable as a result of the May 2010 floods which
ravaged Middle Tennessee. SBA estimated their damages at about $43,000,
but his adoptive mother did not qualify for an SBA loan; FEMA granted them
only $8,500 towards the repairs. Shane and his mother are currently living in
an 8'x32' FEMA trailer. If you would like to make a contribution to help them
recover from the devastation, you may do so using this PayPal account.
Thank you for your donation, which is not tax exempt.